My Gran is on Facebook. This wouldn't actually be a Thing normally,… - Lathrodarknes
Dec. 2nd, 2012
My Gran is on Facebook. This wouldn't actually be a Thing normally, but my Gran is very much a product of her time.
In Her Time, women were doing everything because the menfolk were off fighting in WWII, so she's a ferocious feminist. She was the one that took me aside when I was a little girl and told me that some girls scream because of mice and spiders because they think it's what girls do, but really, it's just silly and I shouldn't do that. Also, she made sure that I had trucks and things to play with, and gave my parents absolute arseholes for giving me dolls to play with because it was subscribing to a sexist ideal.
She was born in a house next door to a Maori family, who gave her her name, so she grew up with race not being a Thing. New Zealand isn't really all that racist, compared to other places.
My Gran's favourite saying for years was "Of course there's a God. She's black."
Today's Gran Comment on Facebook when she shared Betty White's picture promoting gay marriage was "I agree, so long as they stay away from my sons."
At which I died inside.
I know that she's a product of her time, and of her surroundings. I know that, in her own way, she's about as responsible for her thought-patterns as my Grandad's mum, who came out to New Zealand from England, broke her leg, and was horrified at the idea at being treated by "a darkie". Knowing these things didn't stop me from saying
"As long as they stay away from my sons".
Because God help them if they should actually find happiness, stability, and functional love in the arms of a man. Honestly Gran, how can you be so closed-minded? Also, this is the kind of homophobic statement that makes me stop talking to people.
Two of my cousins have also pulled her up on being a homophobe, which is heartening. Anna-Maria actually had a good point with her comment Please define "stay away from". As in "don't hunt them down and "turn" them gay" or "don't talk to or interact with them in any way". If the later, do you suggest gay people wear something to clearly define them as such? Oh, I don't know, like a pink triangle? And would that mean your sons have to stop taking planes in case they happen to be on one with a gay crew member?
I doubt that it's going to have any kind of effect though. Gran, Dad, and I are an awful lot alike in that we're always right. ALWAYS. Even if the rest of the world is in violent disagreement with us. It makes me sad that she thinks that way though. Given her feminist and racial values, you'd think it'd naturally be the same for sexuality, but no. Apparently we don't like them
darkies gay people. Still, you have to try, right?
Also, somewhere out there, an angel just got its wings.